Comments on: It’s not personal. Really, it’s not.

By: London Wedding Planner

London Wedding Planner — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:29:47 +0000

Thank you so much for this post. I take ‘rejections’ really personally, even though I try not to, and end up over-analysing what I could have done differently or if I got something wrong. It’s nice to hear that other planners feel the same! Having said that, I always ask for some feedback as to why they felt I wasn’t suitable, and try to take that forward into the next consultation.

By: Dina Eisenberg

Dina Eisenberg — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 18:31:09 +0000

I totally agree with you Saundra. You just can’t take these things seriously. However,as a mediator, I have a slightly different approach to hearing no.

For me, no signals that we don’t have a meeting of the minds and I should ask more questions to see if we can get a better ‘fit’. I might say, ‘I understand you’re going in a different direction, what would you need to work with me?’

It re-opens the discussion and gives me more information about what other new clients may want. Just saying…

Love your site so much I couldn’t resist sharing it on my blog.
Thanks!

By: Michelle Loretta

Michelle Loretta — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 17:43:57 +0000

Such a great post, Saundra!!! I always try to remind myself that it has to be a match for both of us. If it’s not a 2-sided balanced match, problems of incompatibility will surface down the road. And that results in frustration from both sides. It’s sorta like dating. Sometimes the client is better matched with another vendor… And that’s OK!

By: Karla Blanco |Stylish Events|

Karla Blanco |Stylish Events| — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 01:31:35 +0000

Saundra,

I LOVE the “Their Loss” folder/attitude! It is pretty hard not to feel
disappointed when a prospect client decides to “go another direction” but you learn to just move on… NEXT!

Great post.

By: april (april foster events)

april (april foster events) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 20:39:03 +0000

I really needed this today. I got a “we are going in another direction” yesterday and although I knew that that it wasn’t personal, it still hurt.
Thanks for the pick me up!