Selling when you are “down” in Spirit

There’s been an obvious hiatus from the blog and sales tips. My father passed away in August from undetected cancer. His unexpected and untimely death definitely consumed my personal time. And of course I have my main business, planning…forever events, so the sales coaching/speaking/blogging took the back burner.

Obviously, it has been a trying summer. Hell. It’s been a trying year. Not just for me and my family, but for MANY. The economy is a whirlwind of instability with the wonderful media giving it coverage every second of the day. Never a dull moment with them.

This will bring a people down. In their very core. In their spirit.

How do you bounce back from that? How do you concentrate on your business and be positive, even if you feel like the walls are closing in on you? Because you can’t quit! You cannot give up!

Here are a few of my own tips:

  1. Align yourself with the right people, real people. The ones that will let you complain a bit, but will tell you to get off your butt and go make it happen. The ones that will remind you that while it is bleak, it will get better. The ones that do not bring you down, but lift you up. And more importantly to me, the ones that are keeping it so real that they aren’t over-the-top, Pollyanna, but will still give you encouragement.
  2. Turn off the news. Don’t watch, read or listen to the media. It is only a downer, a distractor and a demotivator.
  3. Boost yourself up with positivity. Everyone is different. Some read motivating books, some people like to read motivating blogs, some pray, some spend a few moments a day doing something they love. Whatever the case is….find your positive motivation and incorporate it daily into your life.
  4. Do not open bills before going to bed. Do not pay bills before going to bed. Do not talk about bills with your spouse/significant other while in bed.
  5. Eat well (remind me of this when you see me chowing on left-over pizza for the 2nd day in a row). Nourishing your mind is one thing but fueling your body with proper eating habits will physically altar your brain power.
  6. Focus on all the positive things that are happening to you. THEY ARE HAPPENING. Some of us may have to dig deep. Write them on post-it notes and fill your office, fridge or bedroom wall with them. You need this collage!

Consider this: If you had no financial worry, no business worry, no personal concerns….what would your daily potential be?

Happy Selling!

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  2. Precious R. says:

    Welcome back!!

    Thank you for the tips. No. six reminds me to journal. I’m off to do that now!

    Have a great week 🙂

  3. Khadine says:

    Saundra thank you so much for this. Can you be my Pollyanna?? lol lol. You are a great inspiration.

  4. Fawn Thomas says:

    So sorry to hear of your fathers passing. It is such a hard thing to deal with loss especially to a disease which is as cruel as Cancer can be to those we love.

    It is wonderful that you are here to remind us that though the news and times are tough we can pull through so long as we are strong together… and show each other just how much we all have to live for.

    Be well, Be Happy Practice Random Acts of Kindness!

  5. Ahhhh yes! Thank you!!! I especially need #5… this summer’s 10 lbs have not been kind to me… must. eat. vegetables. (My husband will thank you for #4.) Am printing this out and taping it to my wall.

  6. Lisa McGainey says:

    Hey Saundra,

    Let me first start with my condolences. I was not aware of it. I am so sorry for your lost. My prayers continue to be with you and your family. Secondly, Thank you for this post of encouragement. It has come right on time.


  7. Lisa says:

    I agree align yourself with the right people, the people around you will only help make u stronger or weaker. … If I had no financial worry what would my potential be… I think that creatively I can go really far.

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  9. Sending you a great big hug. It’s so hard to lose someone you love, but I have a feeling the best of your Dad lives in you.

    Great list. People always happiness happens. Actually, you gotta plan to be happy, I think. Feed your dreams so they stay alive. Every night I spend time ‘shopping’ for that little Savannah property where my office will overlook the water and I’ll sip martinis on the porch with my hubby. That’s worth working hard for.

    I’ve been on a news diet so long and haven’t suffered. If its big news someone will tell you whether you want to know or not. Everything else is just fear-mongering. Fear sells just as well, if not better, than sex. What I think about I bring about so, no news.

    What keeps me going is remembering that every field must be fallow sometime if it’s gonna reap something nourishing. You just can’t have highs if there aren’t any lows. There’s something to learn in each. Sounds preachy, but I swear by it.

    I’ll tweet you soon.

  10. Eve says:

    Dear Saundra,

    from following you on twitter I knew what you were going though with your father, I am sure each day is still hard and the pain is very deep. I am so sorry. I lost my mother to cancer two years ago and today saw her oncologist talking about breast cancer on national show (as it is breast cancer month) on the TV whilst shopping for a new TV set at the store. I was transfixed…

    In truth, I have been going through a hard patch. weddings have been canceled, or postponed to 2010 (and clients being unable to meet their scheduled payments), I do flowers as well and the most disheartening reply I got a few times now is how “we chose not to use flowers at our wedding”. Basically, recession is horrible.
    I spent a few weeks in a daze, totally unmotivated and ready to throw in a towel, call it quits… I failed, I couldn’t make it work (the usual self pity non-sense).

    It is so important to keep positive, and yes it is hard! You are so right about the right ind of people… my wedding planner friends, and most importantly my husband and my beautiful children! There are dark days, but there is a lot of good too!

    We need to get through this dark hour, for very soon we will all be planning celebrations!


  11. Raquel says:

    What a post to come back with Saundra – absolutely wonderful! So practical, yet a good reminder for all of us. I couldn’t agree more about surrounding yourself with sincere people. I too followed your updates on Twitter regarding your dad’s illness and send you and your family my condolences.

  12. saundra says:

    Thank you all for your kind words. I have wrote this post a 100 times in my mind since August. We all feel the pressure, whether we have lost a love one or not.

    Hang in there. It’s all relative. Keep the faith…it will prevail. It has to. Thank you again.

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